The courts have opened and they have started hearing cases again. Good news. From the big board I learned that some agencies were receiving court dates for families that haven't been waiting as long as we have for ours. I found myself wondering the "whys & what ifs" of it all. Why didn't our agency have any dates? Why were families with referrals after ours getting court dates? What if our paperwork is lost and no one knows this? What if she gets sick before we can bring her home? What if this adoption never happens? I am having such a hard time right now dealing with all the uncertainty and lack of information of what is going on. Then last week we found out that our agency received 5 court dates, I was hoping and praying that ours would be one of them. When I received an e-mail with the subject ~court dates~ my heart was soaring because I thought my prayers had been answered! But as soon as I opened it my heart sank 10 times faster. This is part of the e-mail.
We just received word that some of the court dates we have been given are for cases more recently filed. This is a disappointment to everyone as we were hoping court dates would be assigned in order, not randomly, which appears to be the case.
We understand this will be a great disappointment to all of you who have been patiently waiting for a court date for months. Hopefully the courts will work through the backlog quickly.
I couldn't stop the tear from flowing. I was devastated to say the least. I know that my wait has not been as long as a couple of the other families, so I can only imagine what they must be feeling right now. Not only was this bad news, but what hurts more is that I don't have the luxury of just picking up the phone to talk to Jerry about it. He has always been my rock throughout the whole rollacoaster process that is adoption. He is the one that can make everything make sense and calm my fears. He is the one that is able to comfort me like no one else.
One of the families that received thier referral the same day we did announced thier court date. I am happy for them even though my heart is breaking for our family.
This adoption is so much different from our adoption of Levi. We were given so much more information during his adoption, and in this one I feel sometimes so in the dark. We have so little information. Everyone asks questions that I don't have the answers for.
Please pray for our family.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Posted by The Maxwell's at 8:48 AM
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We are in the same boat as you. This is our second adoption as well (our son is from Kazakhstan) and the process has been much different. I can relate with the feelings of deflated hopes with every email. Hang in there. Hopefully soon you'll be getting an email with your date. We know from our past experiences with adoption, it will happen. And before you know it, your little one will be home and this wait will be a memory.
(((Sandi)))
Praying you guys get a court date this week. It's almost Monday morning in Ethiopia!
I feel the same as you. We too are waiting for a court date from Hope. We just got another referral last month, so I guess we are considered a recent case even though our original referral for a sibling group was on April 7 (and never received a court date); but in August, their birthmother returned for them. I don't know if our new case has even been submitted for a court date. I sure would love to hear some info...
Anyway, I saw your baby girl and she is precious. She is next to our new baby girl on the Asher photos.
I am praying for all of us long-timers.
Carla
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